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Why Rejection Trauma Haunts You emotion regulation emotional health Oct 30, 2024

What is Rejection Trauma?

Rejection trauma often stems from feeling rejected by significant figures early in life. This early rejection often shapes how we think about ourselves and influences future relationships. You may feel it directly as a fear of being rejected or you may feel it indirectly...

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Why Asking Your Spouse to Come Home Won’t Fix Your Family ask me anything relationship advice toxic relationships Oct 20, 2024

Hi Dr. Julie, I am currently separated and going through the divorce process. I don't want the divorce, but my husband's affair partner just moved in from Tennessee, and they've only been dating for five months. My boys are struggling with all of this and just want the family to stay...

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How to Be Confident If You’re Quiet: Embracing Introversion as Your Superpower ask me anything authenticity effective communication healthy relationships Oct 13, 2024

I received the following question from a community member:

Dear Dr. Julie, I feel inadequate most of the time. I graduated from high school in 1965. I've worked a variety of jobs, including 13 years with the federal government across three different agencies, and retired in 2002. I...

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Mastering Emotion Regulation: How to Stay Calm and In Control emotion regulation emotional health people pleasing self-improvement Oct 08, 2024

We’ve all been there—caught in a frustrating situation, feeling emotions bubbling up to the surface and not knowing how to handle them. Whether it’s road rage in traffic, a stressful conversation at work, or an argument with a loved one, emotions can sometimes take over, leaving...

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Is My Marriage Worth Saving? One Woman’s Dilemma and My Advice ama ask me anything marriage relationship advice toxic relationships Oct 06, 2024

Dear Dr. Julie, I caught my husband talking to another female twice. He changed his number because he said he wants to salvage our marriage. I don’t know if I feel the same way anymore. He’s hurt me so many times after we got married. He has disappeared on me for days, wasted so...

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When Your Spouse Wants a Divorce and You Don't ama ask me anything boundaries relationship advice relationship tips Sep 07, 2024

Good Evening Dr. Julie, My husband and I are currently separated. He wants the divorce I do not. We are working together on figuring out the property end of things, but how do I set the boundary of not singing the divorce papers as what I feel and want matters too.

--Dodging Divorce

Dear Dodging:...

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